“Honestly, didn’t believe it was suicide. I thought someone had killed her and framed it as suicide because I was like, ‘She would never do that! She would never do that!’” says Kathryn Eustler, who lost her friend to suicide.
Suicidal thoughts, making plans for suicide and suicide attempt are higher among college students aged 18 to 25 according to a study done by Emory University.
“She hung herself in her dorm,” says Eustler.
In recent days the news of Missouri State’s freshman golfer Sam Holmes has spread throughout the Ozarks.
Making those wonder why they didn’t see signs of depression.
“If someone would have asked me, ‘Who do you think is more emotionally healthy?’ I definitely would have said her, not me,” says Eustler.
At Lost and Found Grief Center, they say there is a lack of mental healthcare for students who are in college.
“I think the risk increases for kids as they go to college because they’re away from that good support group from home and parents,” says director of development and Lost and Found Karen Scott.
Scott says there isn’t enough psychologists in the Ozarks. Making the wait to see a counselor weeks and sometimes months.
One in ten college students has made a plan for suicide. And of those, 80 percent are male.
“It kind of seemed like nobody knew what to do,” says Eustler.
And like Kathryn, most people don’t know what to do when it comes to suicide prevention. And the National Data on Suicide and Depression shows that nearly 4,000 people die from taking their own life each year with another 1,500 attempting it.
Scott says to get those numbers down talk with your family and friends.
“It’s perfectly okay to ask, ‘Do you have an idea how you would do it, is that something you really think you might do?’” says Eustler.
She says by bringing it up that’s not going to plant a seed for someone to want to do it.
“It’s just one of those teachable moments in life,” says Scott.
And Eustler says suicide doesn’t fix anything. “It just transfers your pain to other people,” she says.
If you or someone you know is battling with depression or suicide Scott says seek help. Life is better when you talk it out.